The Winds of Change

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WowCoach(tm)
DeskTopCoaching
Nov. 1, 2002

In this issue:
1.  Quotes of the month
2.  The Winds of Change
3.  Ask For What You Want
4.  The Gracious and Dignified Maurine Jones
5.  Coaching Tip

Welcome to the monthly edition of DeskTopCoaching.  This
newsletter is designed to bring coaching into YOUR life.
Through thought provoking articles, strong questions, and
requests for action, we will bring a coaching slant to your life.

How do we make changes in our lives?  One step at a time!
Participate in the concepts of the newsletter and watch the
shifts begin to happen.

Our network grows by your referrals.  Please feel free to send
copies of the newsletter to friends and colleagues.

Have a wonderful month.
******************************************************

"We cannot change the direction of the wind...  but we can adjust our
sails."         Submitted by Ellie Wellwood

******************************************************
The wind can change in an instant.  We have experienced this as
we have gone from the warm and pleasant breezes of fall, to having
snow here in Canada this week.  The wind feels harsh and sharp,
and we instantly bundle up and take a protective posture to hide=20
from the wind.

Wind can also represent the winds of change in our lives.  Most=20
people that I speak with, or coach with, are describing this
incredible feeling of change all around them.  It is interesting to
watch all the different responses and reactions to these changes.
Some huddle up and hide, wanting everything in their lives
to remain the same.  The other extreme are the people like the
captain of a sail boat, that merely adjust and alter the sails to
capitalize on the wind.  Most others fit somewhere between these
two extremes.

It is not that one way is right, and another wrong.  I feel that it is
simply important to recognize our own patterns, and to see if
they are serving us.  Or is it time to change our approach to
change?

Change and evolution are a constant in the universe.  We might
perceive at times that we have a controlled and non-changing life,
yet I have come to realize that this is simply an illusion.  We are
just not dialed in to the level of changes that are all around us.
Once we dial in, or are forced into more aggresive changes, we
are often startled.  We feel a sense of lack of control.  In this
instant do you clamp up, or do you ask for what you need?

Asking for what we need is imperative to living a full life.  See=20
the story below about a gift that a son was able to bestow on
his father, by simply asking him what he needed.  First step is
to identify some of your needs.  With change happening in your
life, is it reassurance, security, etc.?  Once you identify one or a few
of your needs, ask others to help you with them.

Our attitude about change affects the way that we handle changes
in our lives.  If it frightens us, and we associate it with negativity,
then guess what - you'll tend to have negative and fear based
things happening.  Attitude can change the entire nature of the
experiences in our lives.  See the story about Maureen Jones
to have a strong example of the importance of attitude during any
changes in our lives.

Change is a constant.  Why not choose to embrace some of the
changes in your life.  New and amazing experiences and opportunities
could be excavated out of the winds of change.  Can you take the
attitude of adventurous sailors, and simply alter your sail settings
to experience the full speed and exhileration that can occur when
you utilize the strength and power of the wind? =20

Why not try?

******************************************************
Ask for What You Want

Paul's 84-year-old father was tired of living. He was down from
155 pounds to 103. The doctors were worried. They'd run every
test. His lungs started filling with fluid. His heart was not
well. They labeled it congestive heart disease and rushed him
to the new hospital across town.

"Nothing we can do," said the medical staff. They declared him
terminal and sent him back to die at the nursing home.

Paul flew to New England to say goodbye to his father. He pushed
through his own pain and memories of a less-than-perfect
childhood. He went to be with his dad. He talked to the nursing
home staff, the doctors, his sisters, all the relatives and
friends. He talked to his dad.

"What is it that you need?" he asked.

And he found out what his dad wanted. He wanted to feel that he
had choice, that someone would care enough to listen to him, to
do what he wanted -- not what they thought would be right for
him. He spent 84 years being told what he wanted, being denied
his own experience, being told what would be right for him.

"Ask for what you want," Paul coached him.

Paul brought pens and magic markers and index cards and paper
and made signs for his dad. He put aside his own judgements and
opinions. He stopped thinking he knew what was right for this
man. He let his father decide for himself if he wanted his
pillow straightened. He let him decide for himself whether he
wanted to live or to die. He gave him back his right to choose.

"Come smiling," the signs said. "If you love someone, let them
be who they are, not who you think they should be."

"Stop and listen." "Ask for what you want. Accept it when it
arrives." "Don't ask for what you don't want." "Be here. Be
clear."

These signs meant life to a man who had given up.

Paul's dad wasn't eating. "That's OK," Paul said.

He brought in bags of groceries -- bowls of fruit and chunks
of cheese and barbecued chickens and gallons of juice -- and
picnicked enthusiastically in his dad's room, handing chunks
of pineapple over his dad to the other side of the bed. His
dad was inspired and began to eat too.

Paul's dad began to look forward to the rest of his life and
two weeks later they took him off the critical list.

"Resurrection," the nursing home staff said, "it's a miracle."

They didn't acknowledge the power of Paul's presence, his
willingness to listen, his love for his dad. They didn't know
why a tired old man would decide to live a bit longer.

"Touched by an angel," they told each other.

But I was there, and I watched the miracle happen. I saw the
bright flame that lit up the cold grey darkness of that New
England nursing home. And I know who the "angel" was.

It was Paul.

   ~ by Amy Racina of Healdsburg, California ~

******************************************************
The Gracious and Dignified Maurine Jones

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud mother-in-law
of my best friend, who is fully dressed each morning by eight
o'clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly
applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing
home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away,
making the move necessary.

Maurine Jones is the most lovely, gracious, dignified woman
that I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. While I have
never aspired to attain her depth of wisdom, I do pray that
I will learn from her vast experience.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the
nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready.
As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a
visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet
sheets that had been hung on her window.

"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year
-old having just been presented with a new puppy. "Mrs. Jones,
you haven't seen the room ... just wait."

"That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied.
"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether
I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is
arranged ... it's how I arrange my mind. I already decided
to love it."

"It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I
have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the
difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer
work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that
do.

Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus
on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away,
just for this time in my life.

Old age is like a bank account...you withdraw from what
you've put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit
a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories."

     ~ Author Unknown ~ =20
  ************************************************************=20
  Coaching Tip:
Ask for one thing that you need this week.  Don't leave people guessing,
trying to please you.  Tell them what your needs are. =20

Having an overriding sense of gratitude and thankfullness for everything =

in your life will help you fulfill the needs of others.  They in turn =
will be=20
all too happy to help you have your needs met! =20

May we each be as gracious and dignified as Maureen Jones!

*************************************************************
copyright 2002
Dr. Janice Hughes, LCP(hon)
Any parts or pieces of this newsletter may be passed on to others or =
reproduced,
just include the original references.

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WowCoach(tm)
DeskTopCoaching
Nov. 1, 2002

In =
this=20
issue:
1.  Quotes of the month
2.  The Winds of=20
Change
3.  Ask For What You Want
4.  The Gracious and =
Dignified=20
Maurine Jones
5.  Coaching Tip

Welcome to the monthly =
edition of=20
DeskTopCoaching.  This
newsletter is designed to bring coaching =
into=20
YOUR life.
Through thought provoking articles, strong questions,=20
and
requests for action, we will bring a coaching slant to your=20
life.

How do we make changes in our lives?  One step at a=20
time!
Participate in the concepts of the newsletter and watch =
the
shifts=20
begin to happen.

Our network grows by your referrals.  =
Please feel=20
free to send
copies of the newsletter to friends and =
colleagues.

Have=20
a wonderful=20
month.
******************************************************
 
"We cannot change the =
direction of the=20
wind...  but we can adjust=20
our
sails."         Submitted =
by=20
Ellie Wellwood
 
******************************************************
The wind can change in an=20
instant.  We have experienced this as
we have gone from the warm =
and pleasant=20
breezes of fall, to having
snow here in Canada this =
week. =20
The wind feels harsh and sharp,
and we instantly bundle up =
and take a=20
protective posture to hide 
from the wind.
 
Wind can also represent the =
winds of=20
change in our lives.  Most 
people that I speak with, =
or coach=20
with, are describing this
incredible feeling of =
change all around=20
them.  It is interesting to
watch all the different =
responses and=20
reactions to these changes.
Some huddle up and hide, =
wanting=20
everything in their lives
to remain the same.  =
The other=20
extreme are the people like the
captain of a sail boat, =
that merely=20
adjust and alter the sails to
capitalize on the =
wind.  Most=20
others fit somewhere between these
two extremes.
 
It is not that one way is =
right, and=20
another wrong.  I feel that it is
simply important to =
recognize our own=20
patterns, and to see if
they are serving us.  =
Or is it=20
time to change our approach to
change?
 
Change and evolution are a =
constant in=20
the universe.  We might
perceive at times that we =
have a=20
controlled and non-changing life,
yet I have come to realize =
that this is=20
simply an illusion.  We are
just not dialed in to the =
level of=20
changes that are all around us.
Once we dial in, or are =
forced into=20
more aggresive changes, we
are often startled.  =
We feel a=20
sense of lack of control.  In this
instant do you clamp up, or =
do you ask=20
for what you need?
 
Asking for what we need is =
imperative=20
to living a full life.  See 
the story below about a =
gift that a son=20
was able to bestow on
his father, by simply =
asking him what=20
he needed.  First step is
to identify some of your =
needs. =20
With change happening in your
life, is it reassurance, =
security,=20
etc.?  Once you identify one or a few
of your needs, ask others =
to help you=20
with them.
 
Our attitude about change =
affects the=20
way that we handle changes
in our lives.  If it =
frightens us,=20
and we associate it with negativity,
then guess what - you'll =
tend to have=20
negative and fear based
things happening.  =
Attitude can=20
change the entire nature of the
experiences in our =
lives.  See the=20
story about Maureen Jones
to have a strong example of =
the=20
importance of attitude during any
changes in our =
lives.
 
Change is a constant.  =
Why not=20
choose to embrace some of the
changes in your life.  =
New and=20
amazing experiences and opportunities
could be excavated out of =
the winds of=20
change.  Can you take the
attitude of adventurous =
sailors, and=20
simply alter your sail settings
to experience the full =
speed and=20
exhileration that can occur when
you utilize the strength =
and power of=20
the wind?  
 
Why not try?
 
******************************************************
Ask for What You =
Want

Paul's=20
84-year-old father was tired of living. He was down from
155 pounds =
to 103.=20
The doctors were worried. They'd run every
test. His lungs started =
filling=20
with fluid. His heart was not
well. They labeled it congestive heart =
disease=20
and rushed him
to the new hospital across town.

"Nothing we =
can do,"=20
said the medical staff. They declared him
terminal and sent him back =
to die=20
at the nursing home.

Paul flew to New England to say goodbye to =
his=20
father. He pushed
through his own pain and memories of a=20
less-than-perfect
childhood. He went to be with his dad. He talked to =
the=20
nursing
home staff, the doctors, his sisters, all the relatives=20
and
friends. He talked to his dad.

"What is it that you need?" =
he=20
asked.

And he found out what his dad wanted. He wanted to feel =
that=20
he
had choice, that someone would care enough to listen to him, =
to
do what=20
he wanted -- not what they thought would be right for
him. He spent =
84 years=20
being told what he wanted, being denied
his own experience, being =
told what=20
would be right for him.

"Ask for what you want," Paul coached=20
him.

Paul brought pens and magic markers and index cards and =
paper
and=20
made signs for his dad. He put aside his own judgements and
opinions. =
He=20
stopped thinking he knew what was right for this
man. He let his =
father=20
decide for himself if he wanted his
pillow straightened. He let him =
decide=20
for himself whether he
wanted to live or to die. He gave him back his =
right=20
to choose.

"Come smiling," the signs said. "If you love someone, =
let=20
them
be who they are, not who you think they should be."

"Stop =
and=20
listen." "Ask for what you want. Accept it when it
arrives." "Don't =
ask for=20
what you don't want." "Be here. Be
clear."

These signs meant =
life to a=20
man who had given up.

Paul's dad wasn't eating. "That's OK," Paul =

said.

He brought in bags of groceries -- bowls of fruit and =
chunks
of=20
cheese and barbecued chickens and gallons of juice -- and
picnicked=20
enthusiastically in his dad's room, handing chunks
of pineapple over =
his dad=20
to the other side of the bed. His
dad was inspired and began to eat=20
too.

Paul's dad began to look forward to the rest of his life =
and
two=20
weeks later they took him off the critical list.

"Resurrection," =
the=20
nursing home staff said, "it's a miracle."

They didn't =
acknowledge the=20
power of Paul's presence, his
willingness to listen, his love for his =
dad.=20
They didn't know
why a tired old man would decide to live a bit=20
longer.

"Touched by an angel," they told each other.

But I =
was=20
there, and I watched the miracle happen. I saw the
bright flame that =
lit up=20
the cold grey darkness of that New
England nursing home. And I know =
who the=20
"angel" was.

It was Paul.

   ~ by Amy Racina of=20
Healdsburg, California=20
~

******************************************************
The Gracious and Dignified =
Maurine=20
Jones

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud =
mother-in-law
of=20
my best friend, who is fully dressed each morning by eight
o'clock, =
with her=20
hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly
applied, even though she =
is=20
legally blind, moved to a nursing
home today. Her husband of 70 years =

recently passed away,
making the move necessary.

Maurine Jones =
is the=20
most lovely, gracious, dignified woman
that I have ever had the =
pleasure of=20
meeting. While I have
never aspired to attain her depth of wisdom, I =
do pray=20
that
I will learn from her vast experience.

After many hours =
of=20
waiting patiently in the lobby of the
nursing home, she smiled =
sweetly when=20
told her room was ready.
As she maneuvered her walker to the =
elevator, I=20
provided a
visual description of her tiny room, including the=20
eyelet
sheets that had been hung on her window.

"I love it," =
she=20
stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year
-old having just been =
presented=20
with a new puppy. "Mrs. Jones,
you haven't seen the room ... just=20
wait."

"That doesn't have anything to do with it," she=20
replied.
"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. =
Whether
I=20
like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is
arranged =
... it's=20
how I arrange my mind. I already decided
to love it."

"It's a =
decision=20
I make every morning when I wake up. I
have a choice; I can spend the =
day in=20
bed recounting the
difficulty I have with the parts of my body that =
no=20
longer
work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones=20
that
do.

Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll=20
focus
on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored =
away,
just for=20
this time in my life.

Old age is like a bank account...you =
withdraw from=20
what
you've put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit
a lot =
of=20
happiness in the bank account of =
memories."

     ~=20
Author Unknown ~  

  
************************************************************ =

  
Coaching =
Tip:
Ask for one thing that you =
need this=20
week.  Don't leave people guessing,
trying to please you.  =
Tell them=20
what your needs are.  
 
Having an overriding sense =
of gratitude=20
and thankfullness for everything 
in your life will help you =
fulfill the=20
needs of others.  They in turn will be 
all too happy to help you =
have your=20
needs met!  
 
May we each be as gracious =
and=20
dignified as Maureen Jones!
 
*************************************************************

copyright 2002
Dr. Janice Hughes,=20
LCP(hon)
Any parts or pieces of this =
newsletter=20
may be passed on to others or reproduced,
just include the original=20
references.
  

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