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WowCoach(tm)
DeskTopCoaching
April 1, 2002

In this issue:
1.  Quote of the month
2.  Personal Ethics
3.  Catch of a Lifetime
4.  Sitting on your Talent
5.  Coaching Tip

Welcome to the monthly edition of DeskTopCoaching.  This newsletter
is designed to bring coaching into YOUR life.  Through thought
provoking articles, strong questions, and requests for action, we will
bring a coaching slant to your life.

How do we make changes in our lives?  One step at a time!
Participate in the concepts of the newsletter and watch the shifts
begin to happen.

Our network grows by your referrals.  Please feel free to send
copies of the newsletter to friends and colleagues.

Have a wonderful month.
***************************************************

"With ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all
things are attainable."
                T.F. Buxton

"To succeed... you need to find something to hold on to,
something to motivate you, something to inspire you."
                Tony Dorsett


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*****
Ethics involves a branch of philosophy which studies the=20
principles of right or wrong in human conduct.  Our own personal
ethics is based on the standards we set in our own lives regarding
doing right or wrong. =20

These personal choices do not always fit with the cultural decisions=20
of right and wrong.  Others around you are always all too happy to
tell you not to do something, that it is wrong.  We hear this from
the time we are children - good boys/girls don't behave like that, it
is wrong to speak out, etc.  These are cultural 'rules' that are passed
down within families, within communities.

Some of these cultural 'rules' may be right or wrong.  It is really not
up to me to determine.  Yet it is up to me to determine the rules
that are important to me, the ones that I will set my standards by
and orient my life around.

In determining my personal ethics this then allows me to set the
rules of operating my life by.  Then when any decisions come up
I make my choices based on my rules of conduct.  This is running
my life based on my personal ethics.

What makes up right and wrong for you?

janice hughes

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*****
Catch of a Lifetime

He was 11 years old and went fishing every
chance he got from a dock at his family's
cabin on an island in the middle of a New
Hampshire lake. On the day before the bass
season opened, he and his Father were fishing
early in the evening, catching some fish and
perch with worms. Then he tied on a small
silver lure and practiced casting. The lure
struck the water and caused colored ripples
in the sunset, thin silver ripples as the
moon rose over the lake. When his pole doubled
over, he knew something huge was on the other
end. His Father watched with admiration as
the boy skillfully worked the fish along side
the dock. Finally, he very gingerly lifted
the exhausted fish from the water. It was
the largest one he had ever seen, but it
was a bass.

The boy and his Father looked at the handsome
fish, gills playing back and forth in the
moonlight. The Father lit a match and looked
at his watch. It was 10 p.m. - two hours
before the season opened. He looked at the
fish, then at the boy. "You'll have to put
it back, Son," he said.

"Dad!" cried the boy.

"There will be another fish," said his father.

"Not as big as this one," cried the boy.

He looked around the lake. No other fishermen
or boats were around in the moonlight. He
looked again at his Father. Even though no
one had seen them, nor could anyone ever
know what time he caught the fish, the boy
could tell by the clarity of his Father's
voice that the decision was not negotiable.
He slowly worked the hook out of the lip
of the huge bass and lowered it into the
black water. The creature swished it's
powerful body and disappeared. The boy
suspected that never again would he see
such a great fish.

That was 34 years ago. Today, the boy is
a successful architect in New York City.
His Father's cabin is still there on the
island in the middle of the lake. He takes
his own son and daughters fishing from the
same dock. He was right. He has never again
caught such a magnificent fish as the one
he landed that night long ago. But he does
see that same fish - again and again - every
time he comes up against a question of
ethics. For, as his Father taught him,
ethics are simple matters of right and
wrong. It is only the practice of ethics
that is difficult.

Do we do right when no one is looking? Do
we refuse to cut corners to get the design
in on time? Or refuse to trade stocks based
on information that we aren't supposed to
have? We would if we were taught to put
the fish back when we were young. For we
would have learned the truth. The decision
to do right lives fresh and fragrant in
our memory. It is a story we will proudly
tell our friends and our grandchildren.
Not about how we had a chance to beat
the system and took it, but about how
we did the right thing and were forever strengthened.
-- Unknown


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*******
Sitting on Your Talent

If you are like me, there are some things you may feel you do
pretty well, and others that you would not admit to having done
even at gunpoint! I do play guitar adequately and I can make a
memorable enchilada dish. I also enjoy working with people and I
seem to have made it a lifelong project to learn how to become a
better listener.

I never thought of myself as one who has any great talent, but
like each of us, I have certain skills and abilities. Let me tell
you a story, however, passed down through jazz circles. It's a
story about a man who had real talent.

This particular man played piano in a bar. He was a good piano
player. People came out just to hear him and his trio play. But
one night, a patron wanted them to sing a particular song. The
trio declined. But the customer was persistent. He told the
bartender,

"I'm tired of listening to the piano. I want that guy to sing!"

The bartender shouted across the room to the piano player,

"Hey buddy! If you want to get paid, sing the song. The patrons
are asking you to sing!"

So he did. He sang a song. A jazz piano player who had not sung
much in public, sang a song that changed his career. For nobody
had ever heard Sweet Lorraine sung the way it was sung that night
by Nat King Cole!

He had talent he was sitting on! He may have lived the rest of
his life playing in a jazz trio in clubs and bars, but because he
had to sing, he went on to become one of the best-known
entertainers in America.

You, too, have skills and abilities. You may not feel as if your
"talent" is particularly great, but it may be better than you
think! And with persistence, most skills can be improved.
Besides, you may as well have no ability at all if you sit on
whatever talent you possess!

Some people ask, "What ability do I have that is useful?"

Others ask, "How will I use the ability that I have?"


From the book JOY ALONG THE WAY by Steve Goodier

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*******
Coaching Tip:

"I have learned that integrity is the steadfast refusal to do anything I =
will
dislike myself for having done."    Simply Brilliant

Doing the right thing, even in the small daily decisions in life, builds =
our
base and foundation of integrity.  Life is in the details.  Think about
ethics whenever those decision times hit, and know that your integrity
is based on doing the right thing in the moment.

=20
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*********
copyright 2002
Dr. Janice Hughes, B.Sc., M.Sc., D.C., LCP(hon)
WowCoach(tm)
www.01scripts.com
www.weightloss101.org

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April 1, 2002

In this =

issue:
1.  Quote of the month
2.  Personal =
Ethics
3. =20
Catch of a Lifetime
4.  Sitting on your Talent
5.  =
Coaching=20
Tip

Welcome to the monthly edition of DeskTopCoaching.  This =

newsletter
is designed to bring coaching into YOUR life.  =
Through=20
thought
provoking articles, strong questions, and requests for =
action, we=20
will
bring a coaching slant to your life.

How do we make =
changes in=20
our lives?  One step at a time!
Participate in the concepts of =
the=20
newsletter and watch the shifts
begin to happen.

Our network =
grows by=20
your referrals.  Please feel free to send
copies of the =
newsletter to=20
friends and colleagues.

Have a wonderful=20
month.
***************************************************

 
"With ordinary=20
talent and extraordinary perseverance, all
things are=20
attainable."
         &nb=
sp;     =20
T.F. Buxton

"To succeed... you need to find something to hold on=20
to,
something to motivate you, something to inspire=20
you."
          &nbs=
p;    =20
Tony Dorsett


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Ethics involves a branch of philosophy =
which=20
studies the 
principles of right or wrong in human=20
conduct.  Our own personal
ethics is based on the standards we set =
in our own=20
lives regarding
doing right or wrong.  =

 
These personal choices do not always =
fit with the cultural decisions 
of right and wrong.  Others around =
you are=20
always all too happy to
tell you not to do something, that it =
is=20
wrong.  We hear this from
the time we are children - good =
boys/girls don't=20
behave like that, it
is wrong to speak out, etc.  These =
are=20
cultural 'rules' that are passed
down within families, within=20
communities.
 
Some of these cultural 'rules' may be =
right or=20
wrong.  It is really not
up to me to determine.  Yet it is =
up to me to=20
determine the rules
that are important to me, the ones that =
I will set=20
my standards by
and orient my life around.
 
In determining my personal ethics this =
then allows=20
me to set the
rules of operating my life by.  =
Then when any=20
decisions come up
I make my choices based on my rules of=20
conduct.  This is running
my life based on my personal =
ethics.
 
What makes up right and wrong for =
you?
 
janice hughes
 
****************************************************************=
**************
Catch of a=20
Lifetime

He was 11 years old and went fishing every
chance he =
got from=20
a dock at his family's
cabin on an island in the middle of a =
New
Hampshire=20
lake. On the day before the bass
season opened, he and his Father =
were=20
fishing
early in the evening, catching some fish and
perch with =
worms.=20
Then he tied on a small
silver lure and practiced casting. The =
lure
struck=20
the water and caused colored ripples
in the sunset, thin silver =
ripples as=20
the
moon rose over the lake. When his pole doubled
over, he knew =
something=20
huge was on the other
end. His Father watched with admiration =
as
the boy=20
skillfully worked the fish along side
the dock. Finally, he very =
gingerly=20
lifted
the exhausted fish from the water. It was
the largest one =
he had=20
ever seen, but it
was a bass.

The boy and his Father looked at =
the=20
handsome
fish, gills playing back and forth in the
moonlight. The =
Father=20
lit a match and looked
at his watch. It was 10 p.m. - two =
hours
before the=20
season opened. He looked at the
fish, then at the boy. "You'll have =
to=20
put
it back, Son," he said.

"Dad!" cried the =
boy.

"There will=20
be another fish," said his father.

"Not as big as=20
this one," cried the boy.

He looked around the lake. No other=20
fishermen
or boats were around in the moonlight. He
looked again =
at his=20
Father. Even though no
one had seen them, nor could anyone =
ever
know what=20
time he caught the fish, the boy
could tell by the clarity of his=20
Father's
voice that the decision was not negotiable.
He slowly =
worked the=20
hook out of the lip
of the huge bass and lowered it into the
black =
water.=20
The creature swished it's
powerful body and disappeared. The =
boy
suspected=20
that never again would he see
such a great fish.

That was 34 =
years=20
ago. Today, the boy is
a successful architect in New York =
City.
His=20
Father's cabin is still there on the
island in the middle of the =
lake. He=20
takes
his own son and daughters fishing from the
same dock. He was =
right.=20
He has never again
caught such a magnificent fish as the one
he =
landed=20
that night long ago. But he does
see that same fish - again and again =
-=20
every
time he comes up against a question of
ethics. For, as his =
Father=20
taught him,
ethics are simple matters of right and
wrong. It is =
only the=20
practice of ethics
that is difficult.

Do we do right when no =
one is=20
looking? Do
we refuse to cut corners to get the design
in on time? =
Or=20
refuse to trade stocks based
on information that we aren't supposed=20
to
have? We would if we were taught to put
the fish back when we =
were=20
young. For we
would have learned the truth. The decision
to do =
right lives=20
fresh and fragrant in
our memory. It is a story we will =
proudly
tell our=20
friends and our grandchildren.
Not about how we had a chance to =
beat
the=20
system and took it, but about how
we did the right thing and were =
forever=20
strengthened.
-- Unknown


********************************************************************=
************
Sitting on Your Talent

If you are like me, there are some =
things you=20
may feel you do
pretty well, and others that you would not admit to =
having=20
done
even at gunpoint! I do play guitar adequately and I can make=20
a
memorable enchilada dish. I also enjoy working with people and =
I
seem to=20
have made it a lifelong project to learn how to become a
better=20
listener.

I never thought of myself as one who has any great =
talent,=20
but
like each of us, I have certain skills and abilities. Let me =
tell
you=20
a story, however, passed down through jazz circles. It's a
story =
about a man=20
who had real talent.

This particular man played piano in a bar. =
He was a=20
good piano
player. People came out just to hear him and his trio =
play.=20
But
one night, a patron wanted them to sing a particular song. =
The
trio=20
declined. But the customer was persistent. He told =
the
bartender,

"I'm=20
tired of listening to the piano. I want that guy to sing!"

The =
bartender=20
shouted across the room to the piano player,

"Hey buddy! If you =
want to=20
get paid, sing the song. The patrons
are asking you to =
sing!"

So he=20
did. He sang a song. A jazz piano player who had not sung
much in =
public,=20
sang a song that changed his career. For nobody
had ever heard Sweet =
Lorraine=20
sung the way it was sung that night
by Nat King Cole!

He had =
talent he=20
was sitting on! He may have lived the rest of
his life playing in a =
jazz trio=20
in clubs and bars, but because he
had to sing, he went on to become =
one of=20
the best-known
entertainers in America.

You, too, have skills =
and=20
abilities. You may not feel as if your
"talent" is particularly =
great, but it=20
may be better than you
think! And with persistence, most skills can =
be=20
improved.
Besides, you may as well have no ability at all if you sit=20
on
whatever talent you possess!

Some people ask, "What ability =
do I=20
have that is useful?"

Others ask, "How will I use the ability =
that I=20
have?"


From the book JOY ALONG THE WAY by Steve =
Goodier

********************************************************************=
************
Coaching Tip:
 
"I have learned that integrity is the steadfast refusal to do =
anything I=20
will
dislike myself for having done."    Simply=20
Brilliant
 
Doing the right thing, even in the small daily decisions in life, =
builds=20
our
base and foundation of integrity.  Life is in the =
details.  Think=20
about
ethics whenever those decision times hit, and know that your=20
integrity
is based on doing the right thing in the moment.

 
********************************************************************=
**************
copyright=20
2002
Dr. Janice Hughes, B.Sc., M.Sc., D.C.,=20
LCP(hon)
WowCoach(tm)
www.01scripts.com
www.weightloss101.org  

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